Brown Girls Hair History

Brown Girls Hair Journey

I decided to put together this page to answer the questions that I get the most. I am sharing with you the things I did with Brown Girls Hair from birth to now. 

I am not an expert or a professional in the hair care industry. I am not in anyway saying that the things I did or do will work for whatever you are trying to achieve. I'm not saying that these are things that you should or shouldn't do. I'm just simply sharing what I did. 

Good. Bad. Indifferent. Whatever you choose to do with your child's hair is totally up to you. My suggestion is to do your best to keep it healthy. That's really all that matters.

Let me first say, in the beginning, I had no idea what to do with her hair. I learned through trial and error. I learned quickly what works for someone else, may not work for me. Keep that in mind as you read this page. What worked and works for us, may not work for you.

One bit of advice that was given to me by a professional stylist to celebrity's that did work for me, She said, "You don't need to wash children's hair a lot. When you do that, you are washing the natural oils out that they need to have healthy hair." She said, "Just leave it alone, the dirtier the better."

This may sound crazy to you, because it sounded crazy to me. But that's exactly what I did. My daughters hair grew like weeds from ages 3 to 5. I can only remember washing her hair once a year from age 3 to 5, no lie. 

(A couple of videos of her hair from newborn to 5 years old coming soon!)

**Side Note**PATIENCE IS KEY
During the toddler stage, she can't be still for long periods of time and please don't expect her to. Put her favorite show on TV, give her a doll to play with, etc. My point is, give her something to do that will help her get through the process easier.

Learning how to deal with hair time is a process for your child. She is not going to automatically be still, or know how to sit while getting her hair done. As a Mom, you want to make sure hair time is a pleasurable bonding time for you and your child. Your child has to learn that hair time is something that we have to do, so lets make the best of it. You having a positive attitude will help your child adjust faster to the process.


Below is a timeline for what I did with Brown Girls Hair throughout the years.


Newborn-1 year old



Products Used
Johnson & Johnson Shampoo

Routine
My daughter didn't really have cradle cap and she was born in Oct. So the first 5 months, I didn't wash her hair. Because it was the winter months (Oct-Feb), I was afraid she would get sick. I washed her hair as needed which was not often. My advice is to wash as her doctor tells you to.

Between the age of 1 and 2, I had a very hard time trying to find a product that would help me be able to comb her hair because it was so thick. And at this age, they will not be still for nothing! Cara B Naturally products didn't exist when my daughter was this age, I certainly recommend you use Cara B Naturally from Newborn and up! You can see my review of it here.


Detangling

Detangling has to be the most important part of washing her hair. If it's not detangled properly, it will be very difficult to do anything else. At this young age, it shouldn't be too difficult to do, but it will require time and patience. 


Detangling Thick Hair
If your daughter has very thick hair, like mine, BEFORE washing, I would first separate her hair into four sections, two in the front and two in the back. Make sure you comb through each section to make sure there are no knots, tangles,etc. Then,do 3 strand plaits each section. Make sure the plaits are loose so that you can wash her scalp good. See this video for a tutorial. (The beginning of the video shows her hair in the plaits and how I detangle.) 

Wash and condition her hair with the plaits in it. Now you can take down each section and add your leave in moisturizer or whatever product you want to use while her hair is wet. First, use you fingers to get out any tangles that may be in her hair. It should be very few. Then you can run the detangling comb straight through her hair. The easiest detangling method ever!

Detangling Thin Hair
Wash and Condition hair. Run your fingers through her hair while the conditioner is still in it to get as many tanlges out as you can with your fingers. Then use a detangling comb while the conditioner is in her hair to comb through it. 

If you are using leave in conditioner, go ahead and style as desired. If you need to rinse, do so, then add your moisturizer and style as desired.


2 years-4 years old







Products Used
Johnson & Johnson Shampoo
Carol's Daughter Hair Milk (the picture above with the afro puffs was my very first time using it)









Routine
I washed her hair once a year, if that. I used Carol's Daughter hair milk to comb her hair. I mostly kept it braided during this time. If it wasn't in braids, it was in afro puffs as pictured above.  

*I stopped using Carol's daughter because it was too expensive for me and I used a bottle up every few weeks. At the time it, was $18 for 8oz bottle and I had to pay shipping. Now there are stores in my area, but now it's $20 for 8oz bottle. It works, but too costly for me. If it fits in your budget, I definitely recommend it. I have not tried any of the other products in the line.




4 years-6 years









Products Used
Suave Shampoo & Conditioner (still use when out of Cara B Naturally)
Fantasia Heat Protector Serum (still use pictured below)
Just for Me moisturizing lotion (still use when out Vitamin E oil)





Routine
From the age of 4 to 5 I washed her hair once a year. I blow dried it for the first time when she was 4. I used the heat protector above when I blow dried her hair (on warm) which was only once a year. She got her first trim at 5 years old. I get it trimmed once a year in December by my stylist of 20+years.

After she turned 5, I found it necessary to wash her hair more often. I started washing it every 3 months. She got it washed in January, March, June, September, and December. I pretty much did the same thing at the age of 6. I kept her hair in protective hairstyles that lasted at least a week at a time. The less you have to comb the hair or manipulate it, the better. I've found that braids and cornrows work best for us. 



7 years



Products I Use
Cara B Naturally Shampoo/Body Wash, Leave-In Conditioner, & Hair Mist
Fantasia Heat Protector
Vitamin E Oil by Mega Care(pictured below)




Routine
Now, I wash her hair every 6-8 weeks. For the month of March 2012 (pictured above), I twisted her hair using Cara B Naturally products instead of blow drying it. She wore the twist/twist out for about 3 weeks then I washed it out in April. So her hair was washed one extra time this year so far. This year she mostly wore cornrows, braids in the summer, and a combination of cornrows and ponytails.

Currently I am using my own mixture of shea butter and fixed oils on her hair as a moisturizer. It is working very well so far. I'm going to use this for the next year before I recommend it.

If you are a do it yourself type person like me, you can make your own vitamin e oil. Just use any carrier oil of your choice,coconut oil etc and add some vitamin e to it! It will save you $$. Click here for more details.

This page will be updated often. If there's something that you would like to know about that isn't here, please let me know. I will do my best to add it!




Click here to see the video of her hair length.

9 years old


January 2014


38 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for posting this. I do agree that what may work for you may not work for me, lol. Looking at my daughters hair (2 years old) her hair is thick (love it), but it's coarse and hard to maintain moisture.... I have been using Carol's Daughter and it helps somewhat. I may try the no wash (not exactly for one complete year) for at 2-3 months. I will let you know what happens! Once again, thank you!

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  2. you are very welcome. let me know how or if it works for you.

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  3. I have been looking for someone whos washed hair once a year. heard about this from a woman I worked with, her grandmother was her hair once a year and her hair was to her hips. I do not think that I will go that long but it will be MUCH less...THANKS!!

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    1. It really does work. It's hard to do now that she's older, but when she was little, it was very easy to do as long as I kept her hair in braids.

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  4. what do you suggest for dry scalp?

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    1. The vitamin e oil pictured above is great for the scalp.

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    2. My daughter is 6 & natural but what can I do for dandruff??

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    3. Hi Dana! Because I am not a dermatologist and dandruff can be treated by a doctor, I'm going to refer you to a couple of medical sites that have information on dandruff and how they can be treated. Check out the 2 articles below and let me know if they help!

      http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/tc/dandruff-topic-overview

      http://www.besthealthmag.ca/get-healthy/health/3-ways-to-deal-with-dandruff

      Thanks for stopping by and asking me:)!

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  5. im confused...you washed her hair only once a year with shampoo or period? did you cowash in between?? my daughter is turning 4 in march..her hair is about 3 inches from her waist and she absolutely hates washing her hair...this might be a miracle for me if i understand it right

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    1. yes, when she was between the ages 3 to 5, i only washed and conditioned her hair once a year. My first reason for not washing it was because I just didn't know what to do with it. She was very young, hated getting her hair washed, and I hadn't yet learned how to manage, wash, comb, or care for her hair. When I had a friend to tell me that it wasn't such a bad thing for me NOT washing her hair all of the time, that was right up my alley.

      What I would suggest, is that you WASH IT AS NEEDED. Some people do it on a schedule like every week. I say, if your child's hair is dirty every week, then wash it every week, but if it's not dirty, why are you washing it? The scalp produces some natural oils that are good for the hair and if you are washing that out every week, I think that does more harm than good because the hair may tend to stay dry more often and have more breakage as a result.

      I am by no means saying that you should only wash your child's hair once a year, I just believe in washing as needed. I have yet to co-wash my child's hair, but that is certainly a good alternative to washing with shampoo, if you have a child who needs their hair washed often.

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    2. I was wondering do you use anything to sorta freshen up the hair inbetween. Since u don't wash her hair what do u do when u take out a style for the week.

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    3. I moisturize it and restyle. If it is dirty, I wash it. My daughters hair thrives without water or a lot of washing. I know that may sound odd, but that's just how her hair is. I don't use a lot of product so she doesn't have a bunch of build up in her hair. Now that she is older, I do wash it more often then when she was a toddler, but it's still about every 5 to 6 weeks at the most.

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  6. I have a daughter as well and I'm having a difficult time with her hair as well. She sits to get her hair combed but I've noticed that her hairline/edges have started thinning out. I do wash at least every 2 weeks but because of your post I'll be doing it less.

    I've tried Cara B products but didn't like the smell so I'm now using Shea Moisture on her hair. Thanks again for the tips. I'm going to be putting them to practice and we'll see what happens. BTW your daughter is gorgeous!

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    1. Thanks so much! My daughters edges have been a challenge for us too, only because she has a bad habit of playing with them. She does much better when i corn row them. Shea butter is an awesome choice. you are right, cara b doesn't smell the best, but for a natural product it is reasonably priced and works well.

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  7. well upload pics soon. I will try the year with the 7 months old and the twelve year try the two to three month, I'll let you know how it turn out.

    Thank you for the information.

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    1. Please do and thanks for stopping by:)!

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  8. Hi there, i follow your videos on youtube and have been impressed with what you do with your daughters hair and appreciate the videos cuz thats where i get inspiration from to style my daughters hair :-)). my question is what do you do to prevent build up if you washed her hair only a few times a year. my little one is 3 now and i follow all the steps you mentioned except this, i know what works for others may be different but its worth a try *wink*, anticipate your reply. many thanks

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    1. Hi Abi! When my daughter was 3 the only product that i used was carols daughter hair milk. i didn't have an issue with product build up because i didn't use a lot of product. I explain it more in the "How to grow long hair" post here on the blog (http://www.browngirlshair.com/2013/05/how-to-grow-long-hair.html).
      But, if you are having product build up then it's just time to wash it :)!

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  9. Hello my daughter has eczema on her scalp, I have been to the doctor and it seems that her hair still isn't growing. As im washing her hair I say matthew 10:30-31. She is 5 years old and keeps asking when is her hair going to be long. Aside from keeping it moisturer what else can I do.

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    1. you know what? I think you are doing the greatest thing you can do, praying over your child! Keep doing that along with caring for her and her hair as your doctor orders and it will be fine! I believe by faith with you that her eczema will be healed and her hair will grow in Jesus Name amen!

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  10. I wish I had found this information about 5-6 years ago. But better late than never. I will start incorporating this into our routine now. I think this will significantly improve our progress. I can't wait to see what happens.

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    1. I hope it does! Keep us posted on your progress!

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    2. What do you use on your little girls hair to make her twist last so long. My little is 2 and her twist will not last more then 3 days. I am using a shea butter.. Just wanted to know what more I can do to help them last thanks for your help!

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    3. I wanted to let you know that the advice about not washing unnecessarily is GOLD!!! When I first read the page about not washing the hair my daughter was about to be two years old. I was still trying to figure out a way to remedy her very dry hair. Her hair was thick but it was dry and felt brittle to the touch and her bald patch from laying on her back wouldnt go away. Now we have cut back to washing her hair as needed which isn't very often. She is now 2 &1/2 yrs old and her hair is thriving!!!! The persistent bald patch practically disappeared overnight and now her hair is growing like a weed and I believe that by not washing out the natural oils with excessive washing I have opened the door for endless healthy hair length retention.

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    4. Erika that's awesome!! I'm glad it is working for you!!

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  11. Hi, I just discovered your blog and I am hooked, thanks for sharing such great and useful information. I have a 1 yr old daughter with curly hair, and I am trying to keep her hair healthy and growing but I have no idea what regimen to use/follow. Currently, I wash 1x a week and then apply coconut oil/shea butter. She hates her hair been washed and Im struggling with doing that weekly. For my daughters regimen at this age, what carab products and regimen would you recommend for this age? thanks

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    1. If what you are doing is working for you, I wouldn't change it. If I were you, I would wash her hair every other week. Every week seems a bit excessive to me for a toddler but I'm not there so it may be just what your child needs. You have to be the judge of that. I recommend Cara B Naturally's entire hair line. I found it to work well for my daughter. Now that she is older, i don't worry about tear free shampoos anymore. You said your daughters hair was curly but you didn't say if its thick,fine,thin etc. so I'll just share with you what i did with my daughters hair when she was a toddler.....i kept it in braids...not to tight but braids......you can give it a break every 3-4 weeks when you wash it by putting it in afro puffs for a week then braid it right back up. make sure you keep it moisturized and let it do its thing! The less you mess with it the better. that's my opinion.

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  12. Hi I just discovered your you tube/blog and I love what you have done with your daughter's hair. I have an 11 year old who is all natural, plus my self. I have struggling with it for a while. I stay in a dry climate area what do you suggest? I also was thinking about doing twists to help grow our hair. Do you have any hairstyle suggestions for preteens, with her getting to the age where she can be responsible enough to wrap her hair or learn a little so that she can keep her natural, I would need some ideas.

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    1. I would absolutely recommend doing twists and/or braids on her hair. I plan to start doing videos that show how I'm teaching my daughter how to care for her own hair. She has putting her satin cap on at night down to a science! Make sure when you do the braids that they are not too tight. Quick cornrow styles are good too!

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  13. I just discovered this site and I will check out your YouTube page. My daughter is almost 13 months old and her hair is starting to grow but there's 2 bald spots on the side. I do twist her hair up or leave it loose. I don't know what.else to do with it. I have thin hair and I think she's going to have the same type of hair. I'm taking your advice on the less washing unless she gets real messy. Would you happen to have any other suggestions on how to style her hair or just leave it alone. I'm so thankful I found your site as a first time Mom it's helping me.

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    1. Hi there! I suggest that you just leave it alone. I promise it will grow back. It isn't uncommon for babies/toddlers to develop bald spots where they sleep. Don't sweat it. Just wash it as needed, keep it moisturized and leave it alone! Her hair will thank you by growing! LOL

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  14. Hello I love your videos and website! My daughter is 3 almost 4 years old. She has very thick tightly curly type 4c I think. When I braid her hair the braids do not stay formed because her hair is so thick, what products do you recommend for braiding styles and day to day care? Thank you.

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    1. I'm not sure what's causing your problem because thick/course hair is the easiest to braid! Check out the "Products we Use" page because those have helped me maintain my daughters thick hair. As I Am products, Bee Mine Products are both excellent but they do burn if they get in her eyes and are pricey. A good kid friendly brand is Cara B Naturally.

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  15. I can't thank you enough for your blog. It has been a life saver. I am a white mom with 3 boys. We do foster care and we have a precious four year old. We actually had her when she was a baby, but was returned home. She is now back in our care. As a baby, she had very thick, beautiful hair. I rarely washed it. I just moisturized it and either did the little puffs or left it down. Sadly, in the last year that she was not with us, her hair is badly damaged. I don't know what they did, but it has not grown, it is much thinner and her scalp is awful. I have been online searching for what to do. Your website has saved me. I am actually taking her to a stylist today to determine what to do about her scalp.
    I just want to thank you for your detailed explanations and your product recommendations. I am pretty clueless, but want to do all I can to make sure her hair is cared for and that it can regain health because she is such a beautiful girl. Most likely, she will be ours forever and I only want the best for her. I have three teenage boys and hair was the least of my worries!:)

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    1. I can totally relate to having 3 boys first. I was exactly the same. I'm also glad to hear that our blog has helped you! If you have any questions please ask. The unique thing about me and my blog is I answer EVERYBODY back. I am more than willing to give you what I know has worked for me and share with you what other say have worked for them. Thanks for stopping by. I'm sure you'll do fine with your new addition to your family. I really hope she does stay for good.

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  17. I relaxed my 4 year olds hair in hopes of healthier longer hair. How do I nourish it back to healthier hair to continue growth?

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    1. You didn't say what the current condition of your daughter's hair. Is is breaking off? Is it healthy? etc. It's hard to give a direct answer to your question. In general, if her hair is doing great, keep doing what you are doing. If it isn't doing great, I would need to know more details about what's going on with it.

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